(It's less than you think). As a boyfriend, you need to support your girl, no matter what. (see Galatians 5:19-26 John 15: 5). Perfect Boyfriend List: 5 Ways How to Find Mr Right #1 – STOP LOOKING FOR THINGS THAT DON'T MATTER . “Why He Disappeared” Evan Marc Katz Review: Scam or Legit Advice? Those couples that are in divorce mode right now, a lot of them in their younger years thought ‘I want to get married, here’s a person, I’ll get married to them,’ whether they were right or not. It might be packaged in a different personality than the one we asked for. This could be a place to live, money, security, a partner to go to weddings with etc. He anticipates and meets all his girlfriend’s needs. It might even come from right under our nose, someone we have known for a long time but ignored in our search for Boaz. He calls you just to hear your voice, or texts you throughout the day to find out what is going on in your life because he truly cares. The answer is broken down into a short and simple list. The only problem is that by the time you have fallen in love with your fictional character, you have forgotten all about the one bad trait that originally put you off. What Murzello didn’t realize at the time was that this was the first of many “love lists” she would write — eventually leading her to author The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want. Tinder and other social media apps are also so focused on looks. It ended when he went to Vegas for a bachelor party and met a girl. But here’s the truth; everyone who gets married marries a “not-yet-arrived” spouse. Survive the Affair: 3 Things to Do and Not Do to Avoid More Chaos. A NOTE ABOUT RELEVANT ADVERTISING: We collect information about the content (including ads) you use across this site and use it to make both advertising and content more relevant to you on our network and other sites. Refer to your list often and revise it as you learn more about yourself and what you want in a potential partner. “You decide some things aren’t important or that you need to add something else. Those couples really got down to the nitty gritty and said this is where I won’t compromise and this is why we’re lasting because we still have faith in those few characteristics that really drive us through.”. Take Mr Darcy for instance, his big bad trait was pride, at the beginning of the book he was full of it, he wouldn’t dance with any of the girls, he looked down his nose at people in a lesser situation than his, and he was rude to everyone. If your list is full of things that don't matter in the long-run, you'll find yourself in a relationship that doesn't stand the test of time. Break Free from the Affair Review: Waste of Money or Helpful Tool? The analogy makes sense. He seems to know most of the Bible and has the perfect delivery. These were the questions that ran through Murzellos head. Lana Otoya is a dating and relationships coach/blogger. Dishonesty is such a big, big deal breaker. It doesn’t matter if it’s from a book, a chick flick or just a television show. Life goals are something that we don't always know right away – and they change. LEARN MORE, Your email address will not be published. I know you have a laundry list of standards and requirements that you want your perfect man to have. Your email address will not be published. So many of us (me included) rush into relationships because we fall in love with the idea of falling in love. I'm Ngina and as a certified marriage coach and writer, I help wives create intentional happily-ever-afters! Top 10 Traits Of A Great Boyfriend 10 Traits All Great Boyfriends Have In Common, Revealed . That alone tells me that people who write romance stories are tapping into our fundamental needs as people. “We were not making love, we did not even kiss, but the inexplicable intimacy we shared left us wordlessly and hopelessly locked into each other’s gaze.” -Jasmine Dubroff. We do need that little bit of chemistry to excite us early on and to make it so that we don't see the other person just as a friend. You have to refrain from kissing on the first date, and you must not pick your nose. You're likely setting yourself up for a divorce, affair, or unhappy marriage in the future. Is he trying really hard to make partner at the law firm when you're thinking of moving to the suburbs to start a family? If you rush through this phase and settle down with the first decent guy that gives you attention, you'll end up regretting it. THESE two girls, aged nine and six, have more romance-related wisdom between them than any adult alive. Or church. Required fields are marked *. And having a love list in your back pocket may just help you react more authentically (and snag your perfect mate in the process). I'm just saying it might serve you well to let those trivial things slide and replace them with things like the following…. While no one is ever perfect, there are some personality traits that would make him come just within reach, or at least perfect to you! I (and I assume you ladies too) value the truth, in all situations. “The love list is a list of characteristics and qualities you are looking for in a potential mate,” says Murzello. The prince charming’s of the fictional world. She’s a die hard sports fan… or at least pretends to be. Guys, you have to like your parents, but you can't live with them. Clueless 1. She's awesome. “There are no rules and its better if you think ‘blue sky’ versus very narrow,” says Murzello. I’ve been seeing a lot of quotes written by single women about “waiting for Boaz” aka waiting for Mr Right. Now is the time to analyze your list. The only problem with that is, I’ve become a bit of an expert, I could sit down and have a movie plot worked out in five minutes, I could read three pages of a book and know who was going to get together and I could tell you in series one, episode one who are destined to be soul mates. Right. Join me and let's learn how to navigate marriage hot spots with grace and intentionality. You see, Blaire is "absolutely boy crazy", and likes to think of Justin Bieber as her future boyfriend, The Huffington Post reports. 1. He is 100 percent ready to take on the responsibility of a wife and family. window.addEventListener('LPLeadboxesReady',function(){LPLeadboxes.addDelayedLeadbox('14089bb73f72a2:159f8753b346dc',{delay:'20s',views:0,dontShowFor:'0d',domain:'orlando800.lpages.co'});}); Thanks for having me guest blog on your site Orlando! Nonetheless, after much thought and prayer and consulting with our mentors, we had a peace to start an exclusive friendship and figure out if we were meant to be together. True Infidelity Stories: My Responses to Your Emails. Of course, standards are essential, and we must  establish our “deal-breakers” way in advance. That’s something you need to ask yourself. If I had a boyfriend that also needed to have the house look a certain way and wasn't easy going about it – this would be a major personality clash. “My list from my 20s was 55 characteristics — it had a lot of superficial, physical stuff, and my list at 30 kind of took that away because you know what? Shares.